Friday, December 24, 2010
Even though I love reading all your posts and success's in weight loss....it just reminds me that I'm not having any. I am not feeing too happy and I'm trying to do anything that will help to bring me out of this funk. So until I am happy enough within myself to stop comparing myself to everyone else, I will be absent.
Weight loss isn't easy for anyone, but for some reason....its completley eluded me. Almost four months with a band and I have lost 2kg. I have 6mls in my band. Depression is eating my life up.
I look forward to reading about everyone's success's when I return in however long...3 months, 6 months, a year, who knows. Hopefully then I can feel genuinely happy for you guys instead of just feeling so jealous and wondering why I'm the only one out there whos a failure.
Thank you for the continued support you have all given me. I honestly wish everyone the best and I think you are all amazing. You are all changing your lives and its incredible.
Merry Christmas everyone.
Sunday, December 12, 2010
I see all your positive posts, I see how great the Lap Band is working for everyone else, and I feel to embarassed to post my own thoughts and dealings with the Band.
The truth is - the band isn't what I thought it would be so far. I'm worried I will fail. I'm worried I'll stay the way I am forever.
I'm only 20. I think I jumped the gun a little bit in getting the surgery. I don't regret it, because I really wanted it. But I'm just sad. I'm not sure I'm ready to give up food. I've only been overweight for 4 years. I'm still obsessed wth food. I simply love it. I know I have to decide what I want more :to be thin and healthy or the taste of food for one second?
But its a lot harder than just that. I'm not sure I have it in me, and I'm honestly ashamed. I feel like I'm the only one to ever fail with a lap band. So thats why I've been absent.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Something happened this morning. I was sleeping in bed and I woke up with an indescribable amount of pain in my chest. Its a similar pain to what I get when I'm going to regurgitate because something is stuck in my band, but its so much worse I was so scared. It was eight am. At five thirty I had taken 2 panadol and 1 nerofen with a glass of milk because I was in a lot of pain in my mouth. I sat up for five minutes with that to make sure it went down. At seven am I was back asleep, and my mum came in my room to give me my antibiotic. I just took it with water and went back to sleep immediately. Then an hour later - BAM!!!
I tried lots of things. I got up and walked around, I drank milk, I tried water, then I tried forcing what ever it was down with half a piece of toast and some banana...it took about an hour before I was not crying. It was the most intense pain I've ever experienced in 20 years. All day I have felt like there is something in my oseophagus stuck still. Its not NEARLY as painful...but its just uncomfortable!!! I've drunk lots etc etc but I just have no idea what this is.
My friend with a band said it could be oseophagitis, inflammation of the osephagus but yeah. I just wanted to know what you guys thoughts was? Has this happened to anyone else?
Thank you in advance for any advice, it would be so appreciated!!
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
I KNOW I probably shouldn't weigh myself everyday....but I am now the weight I was at surgery. That depresses me to.....no end. Even though I have only lost 2 kg since surgery, at least that was something. And now I'm back to surgery date?
Its just not worth it. I feel like shit. Crap. I hate my life.
I'm going to go have my wisdom teeth out. Yay.
Thursday, November 25, 2010
I went to an Overeaters anonymous group yesterday. I've thought about it for a while and finally I just thought: Food will plauge me for the rest of my life, its time to take care of it now. It was amazing. The best part was I felt like I belonged. Its the first time in my life I've ever felt like people knew what I was talking about, and other people were in the same boat. I didn't feel judged. I felt as if these women were all in the same boat as me. That sense of belonging was just the best feeling I've had in so long. I will talk more about OA in the weeks to come....I'm too tired to type any more now. But I'm SO excited about OA, I think it will really help me. Theres lots to learn but I'm willing.
Also....I FINISHED TAFE!!!!! I'm still waiting to hear if I have passed all my exams but it is SO nice to not have to clean animal poo every morning. I am now sleeping in and watching lots of seinfield in bed. Its lovely!!
Monday, November 22, 2010
I just feel like this is it for me. I know the band is a tool, I know I have to make my own choices. I know all of that. I'm just not good at it.
Why am I different? Why isn't it working for me? I feel like this is my lot in life. This is it, so just get used to it. I'll never suceed. This weight will plauge me for the rest of my life.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
And I just got back from the dreaded DENTIST. Oh how I hate the dentist. I just had two fillings and boy did it hurt!! More than how much it hurts, I hate the feeling of the numbness and the swelling. I feel so weird and my tounge and cheeks are so fuzzy and gross. I have to watch out I don't accidently bite them because I can't feel a thing.
I have two exams left. One this afternoon and one on thursday. I failed the one I did yesterday, I just know I did. SO I will have to re-sit that one next week :( TAFE is almost over!!!
On the boy front....Hes trying to get me back. He is trying so hard. My heart says go back to him, and my head says "just let it go!!!"
I can't wait til exams are over. I'm going to spend hours on blogland :)
Friday, November 12, 2010
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Sadness is eating me up. And in return, I'm eating up anything in sight. I've never hurt like this before. I can't stop thinking about him. This is horrendus.
If he just could stop drinking....we could be together. He is ringing a rehab place tomorrow....maybe theres hope? I hate this feeling.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
I just don't know what to do. I feel so sad. I feel like its my lot in life to have bad luck. Lap Band works for everyone else, how come it doesn't work for me?
I am now just sitting here on the couch eating chocolate and feeling sorry for myself. I always feel tired, but there is nothing wrong with me apart from Depression. I've thought for a long time that theres something seriously wrong with me and the Doctors are just missing it. I said this to my psychatrist and she said its not unusual to think that, and my fatigue is normal for Depression.
I'm sick of it. Sick of the Depression, the eating, the sadness, TAFE, feeling like my life is going to be this way forever. The only relief I get is from writing this Blog! On my way home from work tonight I was just crying and felt like shit, I almost had a car crash. I just thought: God I can't write to let this all out on my blog.
Sunday, October 31, 2010
And I saw a video of myself today and I thought 'God. That is NOT me. That CAN NOT be me. I'm so fat. So much fatter than I realised. And I have had lap band surgery. No difference. Wow. This sucks. I know the answer lies in how much I'm eating. But I can't make myself stop. Blah. I wish I could write about something good for once. I think I'm going to make myself write about something good tomorrow.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Since Friday I have had a very painful tooth and my jaw has been really sore. A dull thudding ache that was constant. I finally saw the Dentist yesterday because I couldn't deal with the pain. He said "Uh OH" as I opened my mouth. My back left wisdom tooth has come through and caused an infection in the back of my mouth. Its a veryyy big tooth and its mishapen and trying to take over other teeth's space. (Can't they just all get along!??) So I am on antibiotics for that, but that doesn't help the pain!! Tomorrow I have an x-ray to see if I can have all my wisdom teeth out ASAP to stop the pain.
Today at TAFE I had to watch 32 mice suffocate. We "humanely killed them," with CO2. I cried the whole time. Its the saddest thing to watch. We then had to practice breaking their necks (sorry if this is to much info guys,) because we need to be signed off that we can clearly break a mouse's neck. If I don't do it, I don't get my certificate. I cried so much and I closed my eyes. It was on a mouse that was already dead, but it still breaks my heart. So I spent three hours this morning crying because of the guilt I feel for these animals deaths.
Tonight I had dinner with my two best friends. We've always been the same size us three girls, a size 14-16. And now the girl who has always been the biggest is loosing so much weight. She looks SO different, and shes just loosing it all because of her busy lifestyle. She isn't even trying. And I KNOW that its good for her. I'm seriously, I really am happy for her that she is finally happy with her body. But now I'm the fat one in the group, I'm the biggest, I feel shit about myself and I feel SO jealous that she can loose 15kg in such a small amount of time with no lap band. There are logical reasons behind her weight loss, and I know I shouldn't be jealous, but I am. I feel like I'm the odd one out and I'm crap. I know its just my crazy head, but honestly....I just wish I wasn't me. I don't like me. I'm envious of strangers, of my best friends, of my sister, my MUM, anyone and everyone. The reason I'm envious is because (I think) that they are not me. I just wish I was like everyone else.
I swear one day I will stop complaining on my blog. A while back I posted a positive post. It will happen again one day. I suppose it all comes out on blog land because this is the only place I have to be 100% honest. Where else could I tell this all to? You are all supportive strangers, and I read what you guys say and take advice from it. If I told my friends this, they would think I'm a horrible person. Who knows.
I'm tired. I'm going to jump back online tomorrow to catch up on news in blogland and in my email inbox.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
So I went into surgery having lost no weight. And then I lost 5kg the week after surgery, and I have since put 2kg back on. Because now, I can eat whatever I want again.
I'm frustrated. I'm so envious of all you other girls who start off with such a good weight loss. I mean....to be honest....I'm scared that I won't loose this weight. You guys are an inspiration to me. Usually I start a blog and I write for one day and I give up. But I actually want to read about you guys and hear your news and you make me think that I may be able to loose this weight, maybe it will just take me a little longer. I am so confused!!
Monday, October 25, 2010
I haven't had the best past few weeks. Feeling pretty low. My new antidepressents haven't kicked in yet I don't think. Yesterday I couldn't stop crying. It was horrible. I'm not a cryer. I just...I will cry maybe once a month. But yesterday I couldn't stop.
Things with my boyfriend are crap. He has an alcohol problem. Its not that he drinks often....but when he drinks he can't stop. Binge drinking. I know how hard it is to quick, because I've had to quit binge eating. On saturday night he did it yet again. It was his 8th chance. We have talked about this so many times until I feel blue in the face. I have tryed to help him get through it. He is seeing a psycholagist today to get help. But...I don't know how many times I can forgive.
I hate him for doing this to me. Because I can not break up with him. I love him. I have so much fun with him when hes sober. He is the tiny bit of light in my life at the moment. And then....when he drinks it all goes to shit. He is rude and says really hurtful things to me and just....I can't deal with it. He always promises he will never do it again, but he does.
If my friend was going through this, I would tell her to break up with him and hes a douche. But its a lot harder to do that in real life.
I feel a little hopeless and a little sad. I'm just waiting until I get my first fill. And I don't know if there was something wrong with my post last week because someone said they couldn't comment on it, but I felt a little alone in this big wide world.
Anyway, as someone at work told me last night: Its time to put put my big girl pants on and toughen up.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Food wise I have been quite alright I think. Its weird though, the scales say I have put on another kg. But to be perfectly honest....I don't care because weight fluctuates all the time and I don't feel bad about myself. I have honestly been trying to exercise and eat well for the past five days and I'm going to keep at it.
I'm so not looking forward to the next 8 hours of my life at TAFE. Cleaning animal shit. I'm so SICK of this. Its been almost a year!!! I can't believe I paid to do this course.
Enough complaining. I really need a coffee.
Hope everyone else is well!! I have been too busy/tired to get on lately so I have some catch up reading to do tomorrow. :)
Saturday, October 16, 2010
Now I've got to put this into context for you guys. My boss is a female aged around forty. She has been overweight her whole life, and is a large woman, around a size 26 and medium height. Shes a lovely woman and a nice boss, and we get along well. Recently she has been sick and I noticed she looked a little slimmer, but tonight I found out she has lost 18kg in like 8 weeks. I asked her how and she said "I just havne't been eating." I told her she was 40 and she should know that thats not healthy, but she didn't care. I told her I had lost 4kg but didn't know how it would go from here. She said "Liz loose it NOW. Trust me. NOW. You don't want to wake up my age and be overweight." That part, I get. But the next part I don't get.
She said "I remember being your age, and being your size, well actually bigger. I hated my body, I never enjoyed life when I was that age. You should enjoy it now while you can Liz. Loose the weight now so you can actually enjoy it."
Well. I am a size 16. I am 6 foot tall. I never actually thought I was that bad. I know on the scales, YES I do need to loose a lot of weight. But I don't think I look bad. Apparently I'm wrong. Apparently I look like I need to loose it all now.
That made me really sad when I've just had surgery to stop this problem. I honestly am shattered right now. I didn't realise I was so huge to the world.
Friday, October 15, 2010
It's amazing how great exercise can make you feel. I'm off to work now, have a good weekend everyone.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
It may just be.
Today I had an appointment with my TAFE counsellor and we worked out how I'm going to get the next 7 weeks done. Shes going to help me to pass. That is a HUGE relief off my mind because I honestly believe with her help, I can pass.
And secondly....I made up with my boyfriend properly :). Everything is all sorted out now and I'm really happy in our relationship again.
I am not thinking about food. I know that I will have to focus on it soon, but until my first fill I'm just going to chill. I'm not going to worry about weighing myself. If I put on weight...who cares. Because I'm going to loose it all. The lap band is going to help me over time. I don't mind if it takes me a year to loose my 40kg. So...I'm going to try and just keep my mind on other things.
On another positive note I got a WII today and a WII fit so I am going to start being active. I'm feeling okay. :)
I haven't been to TAFE this week because I've been feeling so off. My head isn't above water anymore...I don't know how much longer I'll last at TAFE. I hate even thinking about it.
Food/band related. Well. I really want to use a swear word right now.
Apparently I have 3mls in my band already!!! The doc looked at my surgery notes and she said the band was apparently loose in surgery so they put 3mls in. I CERTAINLY can not feel anything. And I asked if I could get a fill earlier and she said no, I had to wait for 6 weeks to heal properly. Thats fair enough...but I'm worried I'll pile weight on.
I had lost 5kg since surgery. I have put on 1.5kg. What an amazing failure I am huh.
You know what gets me down the most? I don't have the energy to make the effort. I can't be bothered to care about what I eat. Honestly...I just don't care. Yes I would LOVE to be slim and happy...but I've done diets. I've tried healthy eating. I hate it all. I JUST want to feel full. I really do. And I want to feel full from a small amount. I know I should be watching what I eat but I am so exhausted with life right now...its not first on my list.
I'm so tired. I'm so sad. I'm so lost. I'm wondering when life will sort itself out. How come some people get to sail through life, and others find it so hard? I just don't think I'll ever be normal.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
I don't want to start putting on weight again...and also I'm so worried I'm stretching my pouch with all the eating I'm doing. Maybe I'm too immature to have a band. Will time help these issues....I certainly hope so.
I want to loose weight. I'm Desperate.
Monday, October 11, 2010
I was just over at Vanessa's blog at http://the-babbling-bandit.blogspot.com/ and I read her BYOC. So I thought I might do my first one!
1. If you wrote a biography on your life, what would the title be?
2. Would you take $1 million dollars to leave your present life – including friends and family – to start over somewhere else? You’re leaving your physical location to never go back but you can contact them via phone and net and such. (You take your immediate family with you... spouse, kids, etc.)
This is going to be awful but....yes I would. As long as I had my family, I would leave. I've lived in the same place my whole life. This city has so many dark memories for me, and as much as I love my friends, 1 million dollars is a lot of money. As long as I could talk to my friends still, then I would manage. I think.
3. Are you a person everyone trusts or do you have trouble trusting everyone or both?
I think my close circle of friends (thats about 5 girls) trust me.I see them all very regularly and we share pretty much everything. There are no boundaries.
4. Looking back, if I asked you what one event changed the course of your life – and you had to answer immediately the first thing that popped into your head… what would it be?
This may be a little too full on, but the first thing that comes to mind is date rape. I was thin at the time. After that day, any calorie I could get into me, couldn't get into me fast enough. Thats when my weight issues started.
5. Repeat question: Summarize your week in life and in blogland
In blogland I've been loving it. For the first time in four years I feel people understand me and have experiences similar to mine. Its incredibly comforting to me.
In real life, its been full on. I went back to work last week. Its just a waitressing job, but it really does leave me exhausted. And is not the best because the food at the restaurant is the nicest I've ever had, so trying to resist it has been so bad. I failed at that. I have had solid food in my mushies stage. I feel horrible for that and my mum is making sure I know how disappointed she is in me. I feel like I can't do anything right with my lap band. I'm really worried that this won't work for me. I'm not feeling restriction and I'm terrified that I'm just not ever going to loose this weight.
So to sum up. I'm a really good complainer. I am feeling like crap and I'm scared that I've stretched my pouch and ruined my chances of loosing weight. My boyfriend has just admitted he has an alcohol problem, and we're taking time off (that was my descion) until he can prove hes changing. Thats killing me too. And the cherry on top is - Today is my first day back at TAFE. Yay.
Lets hope this week is better for all of us. I've just read a few other blogs with friends that are also struggling with food. So my fingers are crossed for all of us that we can be a little better this week.
Friday, October 8, 2010
I just miss the texture of food, and the taste. I KNOWWW its not that much longer until I can eat properly again. But I'm a foodie!! I love tastes and flavours. I know I can do the mushies, I just don't really want to. I am a big fat cheater.
On a plus, I have lost .4kg since last week. Yayyyyy. Its a tiny loss, but its something.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
I've had almost 2 weeks off from TAFE(where I'm studying Animal studies) and work. I'm a waitress at a verrrrry busy resturant. I've been there a year now, and I love the people I work with, but I've been in hospitality for five years. I'm ready for a break!! Just the thought of going back to TAFE wants me to hide under my bed and never come back. The thought of work makes me want to sleep for a year. I have 7 weeks left of TAFE and I am just praying that I can pass and get my certificate. I LOVE animals, but the stuff we have to do at TAFE is just not for me. I didn't realise how sensitive I was, and I thought loving animals was enough. I thought if I wanted to work with animals, all I had to do was to love them. But its so much more than that. Seven weeks, and in that time, I have to write 2 scientific papers that I haven't started, and do 1 oral presentation that has to last 15 minutes. I also have to do 10 practical sessions. The practicals are 3 hour blocks of cleaning up rat, mice and guinea pig poo. We have hundreds of mice, probably 100 rats, and only 20 guina pigs. Cleaning up after those mice takes hours and the smell makes me feel sick. I'm sick of cleaning. I've been cleaning up after these animals since Febuary. I'm a my last straw! I'm petrified that I won't make it seven more weeks. And that I'll fail these last components.
Well, that actually feels good to get off my chest. Its not band related, but I had to get it out anyway.
Onto my band....Is it even in me!?? I can't feel a thing. Today is day 1 of mushies, and I just had porridge. I had a big bowl and didn't feel a thing. I am desperate for my 1st fill.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Would you guys count thick soup and yoghurt mushies?? Do you think it will effect my band?
Its just a quick post from me tonight - I'm feeling incredibly dizzy and light headed. I'm changing some medication and the side effects are crazy. I have been weaning myself off this particular drug, by lowering the dosage. But today was my first day with no drug at all and I'm really feeling quite faint. Off to bed with me.
Any thoughts in regards to the mushies/liquids? Fingers crossed I haven't ruined my lap band already
Monday, October 4, 2010
Then I had a lonnnnng conversation with my boyfriend. We almost broke up yesterday due to some not so nice words on his behalf. Saturday night he got very drunk and wasn't very nice to me. So we talked things through and he really wants to still be together. I said ok. But if I'm being super honest....I'm just saying ok because I'm not sure. I'm not sure if I still like him that way, and I'm not sure if I'm just staying with him because I don't want to be alone again. I suppose I will give it time to see if my feelings sort themselves out.
On weight related news, I didn't weigh myself today. I think I might do it just once a week. That seems the healthiest option. I have put protein in my food today but I'm still not feeling very full. I have a huge craving for some ice cream.
Tomorrow I'm going to join a gym. YAY! Its been a couple of years since I've been fit so I'm actually pretty excited about that. And then on Thursday I'm onto MUSHIES!!! Yayy. I can't wait until my first fill...but thats weeks away.
Sunday, October 3, 2010
I am completely overwhelmed by how welcoming and supportive all you ladies in this little blog world are. It really makes me feel valued, and that's such an important thing.
So, I just wanted to say a huge thank you. After a week of feeling blue, I have had my spirits lifted today. Reading others stories and tips, meeting new people and getting advice, it all helps so much.
Tomorrow I'm going to tell you about my adventure to the restaurant tonight, I'm quite pleased with how it all went.
Sleep Well Aussies!
And....Good Day to everyone else :)
I have had a glass of Feel Good Iced Coffee and half a cup of thick chicken and artichoke soup today, and I am very full at the moment!!
I'm going out to dinner later with my whole family, but I'm still on just liquids. I rang the resturant and asked if they could puree a risotto for me and they said yes, so I'm excited about that.
I'm loving the blogging world already. I indentify with so many of the other bloggers out there, and sitting in bed on a Sunday reading all these different blogs....makes me feel better about my crazy life.
Happy Sunday Everyone. X
My name is Liz and I'm 20 years old. I was banded 10 Days ago.
Getting banded was a decision I made by myself. I have been overweight for almost four years now, and the thought of being fat for the rest of my life scared me straight. I have tried alternative weight loss methods, I have lost 20kg with Weight Watchers, and ten weeks later I put it all back on.
The reason I am overweight - emotional eating. Head hunger. Comfort eating. Not feeling full. Never knowing when enough is enough. I have made so many excuses for my weight, and I'm sure that they are relevant, but the simple fact is that I ate a lot of junk food whenever I felt sad. And living with Depression for four years, I have felt sad nearly every damn day.
Before I put on weight 4 years ago, I had a very good relationship with exercise. I loved it, I went to the gym three times a week, as well as playing netball twice a week. I was a slim girl, but I had terrible body image. I thought I was fat. Huge. I was an Australian size 12. (I am six foot, so that is slim for me.) I am now a size 16-18. I look back at photos of myself and I wish that I can be that girl again. I LOVE that girl, she looks amazing. But at the time, I felt like shit.
I want to have a healthy relationship with my body, but its going to be a struggle. Growing up in a private all girls school, I observed and learnt a lot from the girls around me, and the standards they held. As a result, I have a weird relationship with food and my body. Before I got banded, if I felt extremely guilty, (which would only happen approx. 1 time a month) I would make myself throw up. If I wanted to loose a kg, I took laxatives.
I'm going to try and stop all of that now. I want to be normal. I want to have a normal relationship with my body. But before all of that, I want to be honest. I'm hoping that while I navigate the journey of having a Lap Band, that this blog will keep me sane.
I know that there are so many of you out there who are doing the same, and reading about your journey is uplifting. It gives me hope that in a year, someone might come across my blog and read from the start to the end and see my progress, and hopefully they will be inspired too.